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One of the hardest things, I’ve found, is to walk up to someone or stand up in a room full of people and declare without fear or favor who I am. Sure it is easy to say my name and state my interests, but to say positively who it is that I think I am, I do not believe that I could be totally fair to myself and to everyone else. I’ve done it many of times; standing up in front of a class of over forty students and boldly declaring that “I am Romeion Case, I love to play the keyboard and I want to enjoy life as a media practitioner in the future,” but does this say enough about me, about who I am?

People, whose faces, for example, frequent the covers of magazines, epitomize my situation of being misunderstood and their identities being mistaken. Onlookers tend to, whether unconsciously or consciously, misrepresent these persons in their minds because of their familiarization with the public face and they never really get time to know the person. As a consequence, these persons like me, have been unjustly labeled frauds because people do not take time out to get to know the real ‘me.’

This brings us to the real issue and to the very poignant question that needs to be asked should any meaning be extracted from our lives; who am I?

It is not very difficult to be a crowd pleaser. All it takes is for one to go along, without protest, with the flow. It is not wrong for me to treasure the experience of making people feel comfortable around me and free to express themselves, because as a friend, I believe that this is my responsibility. It is not wrong to be flexible and to enjoy the company of others and to make them feel appreciated and to make them appreciate me in return.

The problem arises however, when I meet someone whom I wish to spend the rest of my life with and decide to go out on a date for the purpose of getting to know each other. Who do I expose her to? Do I take her a nightclub because that is where my friend Erica and I hang out, not because I particularly like clubbing, but because she likes it and as a good friend I always accompany her to nightclubs? Or do I take her to a football game because that is where my friend Jonathan likes to hang out and I always go to watch games with him? How do I show her the real me? Am I a Partygoer or a football fan?

We should be careful that in accommodating our friends we do not lose sight of who we are and what we believe in. Personalities are not innate but are constantly under change based on daily interaction with persons and the environment. It is natural to grow to love something over a period of time, something that we could not stand for over ten years past.

Some persons have a rigid personality that dictates their likes and dislikes and they would not change for anyone. This is fine for at least there is some constancy in who they are and one would, over time, know what buttons to push and what buttons to not push with them. But not everyone can listen to country music 24 hours a day. If you are the kind who has moods and spells where this minute you can take a little jazz and a little rock the next time and probably a little hip-hop every now and then, do not be ashamed, because that is who you are.

Gone are the days when a person could get up and say that this (e.g. teaching) is what they are going to do for the rest of their lives because there are so many new opportunities that are created daily that can at any time grab hold of their interests. The same principle applies to those persons who are still on the path to self-discovery. One does not simply stand up and say, this is who I am, for people can change and situations throw up unsuspecting circumstances that will at times require some form of adjustment. That is why people get baptized or take on a new faith, because they have found that they are not comfortable in their present lifestyle.

This said, however, how do I find out who I am and if my personality will be compatible with the one I wish to spend the rest of my life with?

I suggest that we take the time out to spend some time with ourselves and to find out what it is that really makes us tick. Try new things and meet new people because there is a whole world of unchartered territory out there just waiting to be explored. If you want to find out if you are the spontaneous or impulsive type, why not just try being spontaneous and see if that is your thing? If you want to find out if you are the type that is made for church, take the weekend and visit a couple churches. No one spends their entire life in the same state because this just indicates that they are not going anywhere, and a life without change is a life not worth living. Life is full of misunderstandings and so you may be the reserved type who feels that not everything is worth telling, but some people think that you are a shady individual who cannot be trusted. Do not be afraid, it is all part of becoming you.

Feel free to express yourself, because in the end you have to be able to live with yourself before you can live with someone else. Love yourself and be proud of who you are. For some persons it may take months, for some years, but no matter how long it takes to discover who you are, I believe it will be a discovery worth being made.


May 5, 2008 | 2:17 PM Comments  0 comments

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